tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1734404180567424295.post3252067043354935630..comments2024-03-27T17:21:09.129-07:00Comments on Author Donya Lynne: Influence Through Love, Not HateDonya Lynnehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00229964689354498931noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1734404180567424295.post-30254930250023876262012-07-25T10:04:47.973-07:002012-07-25T10:04:47.973-07:00Agreed. Thanks, Sunne. I needed that. :)Agreed. Thanks, Sunne. I needed that. :)Donya Lynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00229964689354498931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1734404180567424295.post-16715030904195716232012-07-25T08:30:33.852-07:002012-07-25T08:30:33.852-07:00As you said, we don't know what has caused his...As you said, we don't know what has caused his hate and agression...I think the best would be to just ignore him, don't give him any stage where he can spit more of his "superior hate". So let's just do this...;)Sunnenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1734404180567424295.post-20373224719910212182012-07-25T05:39:35.654-07:002012-07-25T05:39:35.654-07:00Thank you, Sunne. I agree. I think he has mental i...Thank you, Sunne. I agree. I think he has mental issues, too. It's clear he is highly intelligent, though.<br /><br />I guess I just choose to see things differently than most people. I see someone like that, who is clearly highly intelligent, but who I'm pretty sure has some kind of multiple personality disorder or mental illness, and I feel sorry for him. Not because of what he says, but because he will never fully reach his true potential. I think it's sad when someone has all the potential in the world and can't realize it.<br /><br />There but for the grace of God go I.<br /><br />I'm sure I will feel the repercussions from those who don't agree with me, but that's their problem, not mine. If only those who lashed out at me could see that they've become that which they condemn...but that's wishful thinking on my part.<br /><br />Here's the thing: We don't really know the person behind JA's identity, and while we don't like what he says and it can be terribly offensive, this guy may truly be ill. He may suffer from a brain tumor or a disease that affects his mental functioning. From what I saw on his blog, if what he says is true, he had a horrible upbringing where drug use and homelessness were involved. Is that true? I don't know, but if it is, that sure could be part of why he's the way he is. A lot of anger can result from growing up in conditions like that. Can you imagine what life must have been like for him as a kid? Does that excuse his actions as an adult? No. But does it make his actions a little easier to understand? Sure it does.<br /><br />Anyway, I know I'm guilty of jumping to conclusions occasionally like everyone else, but I've always had this ability to step back even after I've jumped and look at a situation from a different perspective. Maybe I just have a greater sense of compassion and understanding. Maybe I simply choose to always seek the silver lining no matter how bad a situation is. Maybe it's that I am seeking a higher road in my life and want to understand a person's actions more than I want to condemn them. I don't know how or why I have this ability, but all I know is that until I've walked a mile in someone else's shoes, I can't truly judge them or their actions, because I will never understand what it is that causes them to do what they do when I can't experience it myself.<br /><br />And I believe that if everyone would remove their emotional ego from the equation as you did, they would see that what he says can't harm anyone unless they allow it to. Sticks and stones and all that jazz. And the guy does appear to have a conscience, even if it's somewhat delayed; otherwise he wouldn't go back and delete so much of what he posts in the heat of the moment. Why else would he do that if he isn't rethinking what he's written? Oh sure, it could be part of some devious plot to post something, make everyone go around and say "Look at what he wrote," but then delete it to make it look like everyone is just crazy ("I never wrote that" he could say). But that's a schtick you can only play out so many times before everyone catches on, and JA is intelligent enough to know that. <br /><br />And you're right: with the mental state JA displays at this time, trying to reason or hold a conversatino with him is moot. I fear that pushing him will only cause him to push back even harder and give him more posts he'll end up going back to delete after re-thinking things.Donya Lynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00229964689354498931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1734404180567424295.post-46780538632330830842012-07-25T00:01:58.781-07:002012-07-25T00:01:58.781-07:00See - I assume JA is MD....I'm neither an auth...See - I assume JA is MD....I'm neither an author nor in these groups. I just once commented on a very vehement and disrespectful post in his own blog with a moderate comment like "not all people like the same". BOOOOOMMM - he nearly blew my head away, attacked me like I insulted the whole world. To my answer that I really didn't get his vehement reaction he wrote me such a hateful letter that I actually saved it and thought about dissecting it sentence for sentence....and then decided to let it be because there is really no sense at all to interact with people like him. Btw. he later deleted all comments despite my first - as he deleted a long blog about how the m/m women tried to get hold of his stories to publish them as their own (if ever...who wants to read his stuff?).<br /><br />Best thing is to ignore them. This guy has mental issues and we can't cure him over facebook or his blog. <br /><br />So I totally agree with you - don't give him any attention, discussing with someone like him is as useless as trying to carry water with a sieve. <br /><br />Well written and well done, Donya.Sunnenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1734404180567424295.post-64559537578538443762012-07-24T10:51:48.032-07:002012-07-24T10:51:48.032-07:00Powerful words and nicely written. Sorry for your ...Powerful words and nicely written. Sorry for your loss.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02694651329050218906noreply@blogger.com